The Family Reunion - Comparing in Pairs

One of the physicians who had piloted use of the Go Wish cards discovered at a Thanksgiving family reunion that he had been named as alternate agent for his step-mother-in-law in her durable power-of-attorney for healthcare document, with her own daughter being named as the primary agent.

He gave a pack of cards each to the mother and daughter. He asked the mother to pick out what would be her top ten concerns if she were near the end of life, and asked the daughter to pick from her pack the ten concerns she thought her mother might be choosing as the most important. When both of them were finished picking the top ten, they compared cards.

The daughter had picked eight out of ten of her mother's top ten. As he watched the mother and daughter in an animated discussion about the mismatching two cards, he felt confident that the daughter was going to be a knowledgeable surrogate for her mother.